My husband and I used to teach Sunday School for middle schoolers. Our format was to play a game or have an activity and then teach a Bible lesson.
One of the games we played was “Never Have I Ever.” The kids would sit in a circle and the one in the middle would say, “Never have I ever ______.” The blank would be filled in with something that person had never done before. For example, “Never have I ever been ice skating.”
At that point, all those who had been ice skating would get up and run around until they found a different seat to sit in. The one in the middle would also race around until she found an empty seat to occupy.
The point was to find a seat and stay away from being ‘it’ in the middle of the circle. It was a fun game with each participant trying to outdo the others. It gave us a time of laughter and friendly competition.
Childhood games are fun, but some of us play this same game on a deeper and even dangerous level today.
Have you ever proclaimed, maybe even silently, “Never have I ever been good enough/smart enough/worth enough!” or “Never have I ever experienced God’s love for me!” ??
Possibly, you have known and believed others are ‘enough.’ And of course, God notices and loves them.
Not so much.
You would be the one, if you were honest with yourself, who would never get up from the chair to enjoy yourself or to take in the deep abiding Love of God for you.
Joy has been part of others’ lives, but you? “Never have I ever known my value or experienced joy.”
Living with negative beliefs about yourself takes a heavy and dangerous toll. It stunts our own growth and keeps us from knowing joy. Negative and false beliefs are often passed down from generation to generation.
I understand that we can say, “But what about this or that happening in my life? It proves my assumptions/my beliefs about myself are right!” Somehow, it is easier and seems more ‘truthful’ or even ‘humble’ to believe the negative about ourselves and our relationship with God and others.
Living with these false beliefs is a painful existence. The false beliefs and negative thoughts leave little room for experiencing all we were made to be. They get in the way of a more honest relationship with our Creator. From our false beliefs, we make choices that affect our own lives, the lives of those we love, and our relationship with our God who truly does love each and every one of us.
Selah Counseling Services wants you to have freedom from the negative beliefs about yourself. We offer a women’s group at Selah Counseling Services. “A Fresh Path Back to You” is a confidential women’s group for 6 to 8 women to meet under the guidance of a trained Marriage Family Therapist.
We provide compassionate care as we walk with women through and beyond being trapped within their false beliefs. We provide teaching about self-care with creative and thought-provoking exercises. Through laughter and encouragement, you will leave with a new awareness of your unique value. You will also learn practical tools to experience joy through the ups and downs of your daily walk.
Women walk away with a deeper understanding of who they were designed to be, as well as understanding their purpose in this life! We want you to also experience this. We want you to change your statement from “Never have I ever experienced joy and confidence“ to “Never have I ever lived in so much Joy and Abundant Life!”
This group is provided on an ongoing basis for the women in our community. We would love to have you join us. Through this group, we will discover truths which will help each of us to accept ourselves more and grow in the knowledge of God’s desires for us. We invite you to call us at 530-268-1355 or send an email. Your Fresh Path Back to You, and who God designed you to be, could start soon. Find out more details by clicking here – “A Fresh Path Back To You.”
-Margy Grebe, LMFT